At 11:30PM on Sunday evening July 26, 2013, I began experiencing mild
contractions and felt what I thought was a slow leak in my water sack.
After calling the hospital they asked me to come in to evaluate the
fluids. Chris and I are beyond excited to go start the laboring
process. We loaded up the car with all of the bags and drove the back
roads to the hospital during which we saw a baby deer, multiple does, a
possum, A raccoon, two skunks, & two foxes. Upon arrival at the
hospital they tested the fluid for its pH levels to see if it was
amniotic fluid or not. However, after inconclusive lab test results, we
were sent home. On the drive home we saw 10 skunks. We began referring
to this test run as being "skunked."
I continued experiencing contractions throughout the night but nothing
that took my breath away. The next morning the contractions had slowed
to every half hour, so Chris went to work. I had lunch with Jessica
Tunstill, her 1yr old daughter Willow and son Colton, during which I had
contractions every 10 minutes. However after lunch they slowed to every
half hour again. We stopped by Jessica's house to grab some raspberry
tea (old wives tale) and brewed it at my house afterward. My mom offered
to make dinner for Chris and I that evening and on the menu was beef
stroganoff and a fresh salad. I had no idea this would be my last real
meal before having my daughter. Throughout that evening the contractions
were mild but steadily increasing, including one "take your breath
away" contraction as I laid down for bed. Around 1:30 AM, I was awoken
by the most painful contraction thus far. I got out of bed and began
timing the next few contractions while practicing yoga positions (like
cat and cow) and deep breathing. Around 3:30 AM the pain was immense
enough that I woke Chris up to help me time them. They ranged in length
from 11 seconds to 60 seconds and occurred anywhere from 3 to 7 times
per hour. During the slow hours I did things like take showers and
nibble on a banana, which was the only food I had that day. Finally at
9:51 A.M. after a 58 second contraction that came within 3 minutes of
the previous one, Chris called the hospital and they suggested we come
in. We loaded up the car with our overnight bags for the second day in a
row (haha), and Chris made me smile as he opened the door for me to get
in. I felt every single bump on that 15 minute ride to the hospital and
was shaking like a leaf! I had three contractions in the truck, one on
the walk through the front door of the hospital and one against the wall
in the hallway to my labor room. Strangers asked if we needed help
(which made me cry), a doctor (named Patella) held the elevator and got
me a wheelchair. I was met by a crew of nurses outside the doors to the
birthing center. I began to cry and they asked if it was the pain or
the nerves. I said I didn't know, but I'm sure it was everything
combined and the lack of food, too. I was shaking like crazy, too.
Chris signed us in at 10:40am.
They immediately dressed me in a gown and my nurse, Becky, did a check
to verify that I was 100% effaced and 3 cm dilated. The lab tech drew my
blood and my nurse inserted my IV. I requested an epidural and since it
was during the day, the anesthesiologist was on duty and I received it
within the hour. It hurt a little bit and I felt some funny electricity
in my right foot as he administered the drugs.
During that same hour my waters broke. Once the epidural kicked in, my
nurse inserted a catheter and set me up with a pink peanut shaped yoga
ball between my legs to help my cervix open further. I shifted from side
to side and within an hour I had dilated to a five! Since I was feeling
fine from the epideral, we invited Chris's family back to our labor
room for a while and after they left my family came in as well, which
was nice so they could experience what I was going through with me. They
mainly watched the monitors go up and down and I joked, "Am I having a
contraction?" My mom and sister got me a wet washcloth for my forehead
and my sister stroked my hair. At some point during this time, the
doctor on duty (Reardon) came in and ruptured a bubble in my water sack,
as well as broke through some scar tissue on my cervix that was
stopping it from dilating further. Within another hour or so I had
dilated to an eight and the baby was at a plus one station. I was hoping
to be able to deliver before 6 PM shift change, however the new doctor
(Olhausen) did an exam and changed his reporting from dilated to a seven
and a zero station. I felt very nauseous and even threw up. We had just
sent our family back out to the waiting room expecting for me to begin
pushing at 6 PM. I was pretty bummed as I had not dilated any further
and from Dr. Ohlhausen's report I felt like I was moving backwards. It
was at this time that I also met my new nurse Janet and I began feeling every contraction
again. I guess when they changed out the bag of drugs in my line to my
epidural they failed to restart the 15 minute drip. I had labored for
twelve 15 minutes cycles without any pain meds. I began to push the
button on the epidural for pain relief but could only get in two15
minute sessions before I got cut off so that I would be able to feel my
pelvic floor (push) muscles.
Janet had me doing a few different poses as the doctor had said the baby
was face up and she needed to turn in order to be delivered. Within two
hours I was dilated to 10 cm and the baby had turned.
Around 8 PM I started to push. I had my legs in stirrups and my hands
were gripping on these bars on the side of the bed to pull myself
forward. My first few pushes revealed the baby's head, however once the
doctor came in I was not making very much progress. We pushed for an
hour and a half and eventually the doctor stepped out to go to the
bathroom. My nurse Janet immediately took his position and begin
coaching me on how to push towards her face. She also massaged my
perineum. After five more contractions, she called in Dr. Olhausen.
Within a few more contractions the baby's head came out and I was done
pushing. Her body followed and Chris cut the cord. Even though the
doctor said, "Cut here, between this clamp and these hemostats," Chris
had to repeat, "Here?"just to be sure. The total time for pushing was
two hours.
Kaya Lynn Surber was born at 9:51 PM on Tuesday, July 28, 2015. She
weighed 7 pounds and 13 ounces and measured 20 inches long. Her eyes
were blue, as well as her wrinkly hands and feet. I was able to have her
on my chest for about eight seconds before the nursery team whisked her
away and began working on suctioning out her lungs, her nose, her
mouth, and cleaning her up. Her breathing was pretty fast. They seemed
pretty concerned but eventually let me have her back for some skin on
skin time. During that first hour I also breast-fed with a nipple shield
and around midnight we invited the family to come back and meet her.
The cameras were out in full force and the family got to witness her first bath.
So many people try to explain the miracle of becoming a parent as the
greatest love you ever feel, but that is only beginning. There really
are no words to justify the 40 weeks (and sometimes longer if you go past
your due date) that you wait to meet the little person who has been
growing inside of you, kicking you, giving you indigestion, hiccuping, making your
hormones a roller coaster ride – sometimes for the better, sometimes not
so much – and seemingly although you know it's a human being making
those awkward little (and big) movements, you still wonder if it is an
alien growing in there.
So when the time comes to go through the most painful contractions - to
rise above them one by one - and to become a mother, it's almost like
even though you know you're going to have a baby you still can't believe
it until it actually happens. Once that little person appears in front
of your eyes, it makes all that waiting, eating five times a day, crying
over nothing meltdowns, an oddly shaped growing body that interrupts
sleep and sex, the multitude of people asking you over and over "Is she
here yet?" and the nesting - oh my goodness the nesting…the struggle
is real! But once that little person appears and you see her for the
first time - it's as if the world has changed forever, for better, for
now this little human being depends a hundred percent on you and you
couldn't be any happier.