Showing posts with label emotions. Show all posts
Showing posts with label emotions. Show all posts

Monday, September 19, 2011

Moving Pains

The most stressful things in life, popular opinion has it, are bereavement, divorce and moving house. 


Unfortunately, I am in the midst of the latter and as much as I want to rejoice in this transition and all that I stand to gain once I get there, my body is having a freak out moment.  Sleep is messed with, body is aching, emotions are bubbling up, and the to-do list seems infinite.


One week 'til I depart!  One week!  And so much to do. 


My List 


Go through my life.
Creatively assess my new needs.
Pack only the necessities.
Sell the rest - either on Craigslist, or in a garage sale, or give to friends/charities.
See as many friends and family members as possible during lunches, dinners, and just making them come sort through my life with me.
Plan a going away party.  
Attend a going away party after having a garage sale all day.
Try not to become too intoxicated and an emotional basketcase at my party.
Hope to not wake up with a hangover.  
Continue garage sale.
Play car Tetris with my carefully selected belongings, my dogs and myself.
Try to sleep before I leave.
Drive 12 hours a day for two days.


Wooo Hoooo!!!  Not so bad now that I look at it.  I can do this.   Just gotta keep breathing.  Stress is relentless and I found this list on www.mayoclinic.com,



Top 10 stress relievers

1. Get active - Virtually any form of exercise and physical activity can act as a stress reliever. Even if you're not an athlete or you're out of shape, exercise is still a good stress reliever. Physical activity pumps up your feel-good endorphins and refocuses your mind on your body's movements, improving your mood and helping the day's irritations fade away. Consider walking, jogging, gardening, house cleaning, biking, swimming, weightlifting or anything else that gets you active.
2. Meditate - During meditation, you focus your attention and eliminate the stream of jumbled thoughts that may be crowding your mind and causing stress. Meditation instills a sense of calm, peace and balance that benefits both your emotional well-being and your overall health. Guided meditation, guided imagery, visualization and other forms of meditation can be practiced anywhere at any time, whether you're out for a walk, riding the bus to work or waiting at the doctor's office.


I use this technique for visualizing my dreams, so as not to lose sight of them!
3. Laugh - A good sense of humor can't cure all ailments, but it can help you feel better, even if you have to force a fake laugh through your grumpiness. When you start to laugh, it lightens your mental load and actually causes positive physical changes in your body. Laughter fires up and then cools down your stress response and increases your heart rate and blood pressure, producing a good, relaxed feeling. So read some jokes, tell some jokes, watch a comedy or hang out with your funny friends.
4. Connect - When you're stressed and irritable, your instinct may be to wrap yourself in a cocoon. Instead, reach out to family and friends and make social connections. Social contact is a good stress reliever because it can distract you, provide support, help you weather life's up and downs, and make you feel good by doing good. So take a coffee break with a friend, email a relative, volunteer for a charitable group, or visit your place of worship.
5. Assert yourself - You might want to do it all, but you probably can't, at least not without paying a price. Learn to say no to some tasks or to delegate them. Saying yes may seem like an easy way to keep the peace, prevent conflicts and get the job done right. But it may actually cause you internal conflict because your needs and those of your family come second, which can lead to stress, anger, resentment and even the desire to exact revenge. And that's not very calm and peaceful.
6. Do yoga - With its series of postures and controlled-breathing exercises, yoga is a popular stress reliever. Yoga brings together physical and mental disciplines to achieve peacefulness of body and mind, helping you relax and manage stress and anxiety. Try yoga on your own or find a class — you can find classes in most communities. Hatha yoga, in particular, is a good stress reliever because of its slower pace and easier movements.

I had to do a little downward dog yoga today to get my back moving! ;)


7. Sleep - Stress often gives sleep the heave-ho. You have too much to do — and too much to think about — and your sleep suffers. But sleep is the time when your brain and body recharge. And the quality and amount of sleep you get affects your mood, energy level, concentration and overall functioning. If you have sleep troubles, make sure that you have a quiet, relaxing bedtime routine, listen to soothing music, put clocks away, and stick to a consistent schedule.
8. Journal - Writing out thoughts and feelings can be a good release for otherwise pent-up emotions. Don't think about what to write — just let it happen. Write whatever comes to mind. No one else needs to read it, so don't strive for perfection in grammar or spelling. Just let your thoughts flow on paper — or computer screen. Once you're done, you can toss out what your wrote or save it to reflect on later.
9. Get musical - Listening to or playing music is a good stress reliever because it provides a mental distraction, reduces muscle tension and decreases stress hormones. Crank up the volume and let your mind be absorbed by the music. If music isn't your thing, though, turn your attention to another hobby you enjoy, such as gardening, sewing, sketching — anything that requires you to focus on what you're doing rather than what you think you should be doing.
I also kept these YouTube videos playing while I packed.





10. Seek counsel - If new stressors are challenging your ability to cope or if self-care stress relievers just aren't relieving your stress, you may need to look for reinforcements in the form of professional therapy or counseling. Therapy may be a good idea if stress leaves you feeling overwhelmed or trapped, if you worry excessively, or if you have trouble carrying out daily routines or meeting responsibilities at work, home or school. Professional counselors or therapists can help you identify sources of your stress and learn new coping tools.


If you haven't already guessed, I am compiling this list so that I can refer to it throughout the next few weeks.   It is my counsel for myself and is good to have it all organized in a spot to come to and remind myself how to de-stress.


Ahhh.  I feel better already just knowin it exists. :)))


Cheers you guys!  Here's to making moves!

Sunday, August 28, 2011

Listen To Your Emotions

I went to a workshop on intuition once and the one thing I took from it was that a woman is at her highest psychic ability when she is just about to get her period.  


In some cultural traditions, like those of the Khoisan women in the Kalahari, women are ritually most powerful when menstruating.


However, in the western world, instead of honoring this deep insight, we shun it as if it's just another painful side effect of nature's monthly curse to women.


It's the thoughts and emotions that come out of these highly sensitive times that are heartfelt communications with our inner selves.  These precious gems should not be stereotyped and passed off, but valued for their intimacy.


I believe that our unconscious uses our intuition to signal our minds about our true feelings regarding our situations.  Instead of writing the answers to our life dramas on the wall for us to see, we struggle to understand mixed emotions and let ourselves get down, feel insecure, or worse, lash out at loved ones.  Once the dust settles, we feel like a dog who just wet the carpet by the door to the back yard - complete with our tail between our legs.  If  we are smart, we apologize for making such a mess and hopefully have the support of our loved ones to lift us back up.


Sadly, most women are not that fortunate.  Since I was a teenager, I can remember people saying, "Oh, it's just your period," when I would freak out those couple days out of the month.  But it wasn't.  The period just got the bad rap, but its really quite a gift.


Ha!  I know.  I just said that the female menstrual cycle is a gift.  Sounds crazy, but is true.


The gift here is awareness.  If we are feeling low, it is most likely because our bodies know that we aren't safe and sound in regards to an important matter in our lives.  Our unconscious and intuition join forces to "ring an alarm" for our conscious to take notice.  What is the alarm saying exactly?  That is the mystery.


The point here is listen to your emotions. Even if you are a male reading this, every reaction, interpretation, and feeling that you experience in life started somewhere deep inside you.  Men are just as capable of tuning in as women. In fact, I believe that is when we are most in harmony.  When males and females listen to each other carefully, mind - body - soul, the communication and understanding allow us to advance into deeper, more loving relationships with others and ourselves. We are the yin and the yang, our energies dancing between us always.  We control our grace-full-ness. 


Listen more.

Wednesday, August 17, 2011

Nature of Mother

Every month, an earthquake rumbles in my womb.
Fault lines emerge
Destroying the rich crimson walls
That took weeks to build.

The chemistry disrupts
Inside my blood
A roller coaster of hormones
Takes off...

Trudging uphill, backwards
Hitting every plank
A rickety old track--
Tests my confidence and patience.

I crest the hill
Free falling along the course
Losing my guts,
Clinging to my sanity
.
The world flips upside-down,
My stomach turns sour.
I want to be back on the ground
Sturdy again, but I must wait.

The cart stops
I step out
Back in the warm sun
Thank God it's over!

Familiar with the course
I am ready
Building up courage now
For next month's round.